What they do is when they can see Sam, their two year old son, is starting to get frustrated or not acting like his normal self they put him in timeout. This gives him a chance to recenter himself. They say that the most successful timeouts are the ones when Sam blows up, screaming and yelling. After he blows up, he goes back to his normal self. He is able to get out all of his negative emotions in a controlled and safe environment where he can’t hurt himself or others.

Timeouts can be used by adults as well. For instance, your spouse is doing something to upset you. Instead of screaming out your spouse you can put yourself into timeout and later come back to have a constructive discussion.

Just like Sam you can get all of your negative emotions out in controlled and safe environment. You don’t have to worry about hurting yourself or someone else. How you get your emotions out is up to you as long as you get your emotions out (don’t bottle them up) or hurt yourself (cutting is a no no).

If you do try this, hopefully whoever you are mad at will let you go have your timeout. I didn’t realize it at the time but I would try to put myself in timeout when I’d get in a fight with an ex. She wanted to duke it out when I wanted to go calm down. This frustrated me even more and we would yell back and forth hurting each other verbally. It didn’t help out at all. Also, giving you a chance to think you might realize your getting upset over nothing or that you were wrong.

Hey you, look what you do to me
You bend and you bruise me
Why you try to control me?
But you don’t know me
How come you just want to hurt me?
How come you just want to push me?
I can’t ignore you anymore
Cause everywhere I turn you
You burn me, you break me
You always want to take me down with you
What do you want from me?

I don’t wanna be afraid, I don’t wanna run away
I don’t want to be here fading it’s more that I can take
I’m never gonna be the same
I threw it all away
I don’t want to be here fading
Just let go! (look what you do to me)
Let go! (look what you do to me)

Hey you, look what you do to me
You burnt and you scared me
With all that you tell me (but I don’t listen!)
You love me, you hate me
You always want to take me down with you
What do you want from me?

I don’t wanna be afraid I don’t wanna run away
I don’t want to be here fading it’s more that I can take
I’m never gonna be the same
I threw it all away
I don’t want to be here fading
Just let

You kept pushing me
You keep using me
You keep twisting me
You keep breaking me
You can’t have me anymore [x3]
You can’t have me, let go!

I don’t wanna be afraid, I don’t wanna run away
I don’t want to be here fading it’s more that I can take

I’m never gonna be the same
I threw it all away
I don’t want to be here fading
Just let go! Let go! Just let go!
I don’t wanna be afraid
Let go! (I don’t wanna run away!)
Just let go! Let go! Let go!

Please quit getting mad at me if I’m giving you attitude. You’re lucky I still talk to you. I’m not letting you get away with this one.

On a happy note, I’m moving into an apartment today. First time on my own. Yay! Lots of bills though

The longer you stay hung up in the past, the further away your future happiness is.

When people are in relationships they do they best they can until a turning point and they can’t go on anymore.

Did you change for me?
It seems like you did.
The person you are now is not the same.
I fell in love with someone else.

You tell me it was the real you,
but now, I see that is not true.
You real you was then and now.
I was played.

I cry as I continue to get played.
You tell me what I want to hear,
not what you really think.
I wish it was true.

I wish I had the power to stop it.
I continue to cry because I can’t.
I let you play me even after we are done.
I wish I didn’t care about you.

I cry for you as I see you fall.
As I watch you slowly kill yourself.
I cry because you lie to get what you want.
I wish you had morals.

All day I cry because it hurts.
Nothing was real.
Nothing was true.
What we shared was fake.

Now I’m falling.
Falling into nothing.
Falling into despair.
Crying all the way down.

Edit: She never left…